Motherhood is beautiful yet it consumed me totally

Becoming a mother was one of the most beautiful and life-changing experiences, but it also came with struggles I never expected. In the early days, I was completely consumed by my baby’s needs, pouring every ounce of my energy into caring for my little one. Somewhere in that process, I forgot about myself. I stopped paying attention to what I ate, how I dressed, and how I felt. My body, which had just created and nurtured life, became something I resented. I avoided mirrors, wore whatever fit, and simply existed, feeling like I had lost the vibrant person I once was.

For a long time, I didn’t realize the toll it was taking on me. I was exhausted, emotionally drained, and disconnected from the person I used to be. It felt like I was giving my all to my family but had nothing left for myself.

"I am not alone". I realised this  after joining Momly

group and I realised I'm not alone in this journey, there were many mom's out there with similar or even more issues with their little one. They would always respond so fast whenever I posted a concern or suggestions. If they can respond so quickly even though they had their own things to deal with I can be better as well.
And then, it hit me—how could I truly give my child and family the love they deserved if I wasn’t even giving it to myself? That realization changed everything.

Slowly, I started making small changes. I reminded myself that I was worthy of care, just like my child was. I paid attention to what I ate, not for the sake of looking a certain way, but to nourish my body. I started dressing in a way that made me feel good, not just comfortable. I began appreciating my body, not for how it looked, but for what it had done—creating life, enduring sleepless nights, and showing up every single day for my family.

Embracing self-love made me a present mother

Embracing self-love didn’t happen overnight, but as I nurtured myself, I became a happier, more present mother. I learned that loving myself wasn’t selfish; it was essential. And in giving myself that love, I found I had even more to give to those who mattered most.

Celebrating Self-Love

Self-love is not selfish. T Self-love is the first step towards 'Empowered You' Through these stories, we are trying to internalise the need for self-compassion in every mom and tell them that it is important to fill their cup  before pouring in others'.

Embracing Self-love made me a Present Mother

Embarking on the journey of motherhood has profoundly reshaped my understanding of self-love. Witnessing my mother’s selfless dedication throughout my life, I once believed that true love meant putting others first. 

However, embracing practices like yoga has illuminated the importance of nurturing my own health and well-being. As Lucille Ball aptly said, "

Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line

By prioritizing self-care, I not only set a positive example for my children but also cultivate a foundation for a fulfilling life. Remember, self-love is not selfish; it is a vital act of self-care that empowers us to love and care for others more effectively.

For me self love is engaging in daily yoga, watching sunrises and sunsets, talking to plants, spending quality time with loved ones, and learning something new each day.

Momly lets everyone express their heart without being judged

(Written by Prashansa - Momly Fitness Expert)

Self-love is not selfish. Self-love is the first step towards 'Empowered You' Through these stories, we are trying to internalise the need for self-compassion in every mom and tell them that it is important to fill their cup  before pouring in others'.

Self-love: Foundation for Fulfilling Life

You are the most important person in your life

Take a moment to express love to the most important person in your life—YOU. It may sound ironic, but often, the one we forget to truly love and nurture is ourselves. Reflect on the relationship you have with yourself. Separate your identity from your life and consider it as a dynamic between two entities: you, the receiver, and your thoughts, words, and actions, the giver. How do you treat yourself? How much time do you dedicate to your own well-being? What is the quality of this relationship, and what love language are you using to show yourself affection?

Ask yourself: would a person in a relationship with you feel loved and valued based on how you treat yourself? Do you, as the receiver of your own love, truly feel it in the way you would want to? When you fail to give love to yourself, a part of you remains hungry for that validation, often seeking it externally. The more you crave it, the more desperate and vulnerable you can become, which not only affects your self-worth but places pressure on those around you to fill the gap. Your partner might feel the weight of this, and even when they try, their actions may sometimes fall short of your unspoken expectations.

The key to breaking this cycle is empowering yourself with self-love. This doesn’t mean you stop expecting love from those around you—rather, it means you are rooted in your own worth, making you more capable of accepting love freely without need or desperation. 

You are the Cake, Everyone else is the icing

When you love yourself fully, you become the foundation—the cake—and those around you, like your partner, children, and friends, become the icing, fruits, and sprinkles that make life even more beautiful. You are in control of the flavours and colours of your life, how you experience love, and how you share it with others. By filling yourself up first, you create a life where love flows effortlessly, and everything you receive becomes a beautiful addition, rather than a necessity to feel complete. Happy Valentines, make it special for yourself.

Find yourself with Motherhood tribe: Choose Momly

In the journey of motherhood it is common to feel being lost. With so much happening biologically, psychologically, socially, financially and personally, feeling overwhelmed is natural. In a time where everyone has something to say, but no one says the right thing that you might need to hear, a ray of hope shines when you see someone sharing the same struggles as you did. The assurance that you’re not alone and not the only one who is lost. Having someone you can talk out your heart and vent without judgments or a guide where you can put out your tiniest and silliest concerns feel like a safe place through this journey of doubts and fears. With hundreds of moms feeling exactly the same and finding strength in holding each other up. 

Momly is a community that helps you find yourself, love yourself, because we understand to be a happy mom you need to be a happy you!

(Written by Amrita Saluja - Momly Mental Health Expert)

A Happy Mom needs a Happy You

Self-love is all about thinking about yourself when you as a mom think about others.

Self-love is also about thinking about yourself only, not how others would feel or react.

Self love is about eating a different healthy meal than others in the house.

Self love is about spending a little alone time also when it's not accepted by society.

Momly is non-judgemental, all time up 24*7, it keeps on welcoming people, it has your back, and lastly...you will never feel alone

(Written by Tasnim - Momly Parenting Expert)

My Poetic Ode to Self-love

All good things come unexpected and so is my journey. Unaware of the blessing coming my way I was engrossed in my work running around meeting deadlines, battling fever, feeling weak and low at the same time while my body was giving me signals to pause and relax. One day my body started to retaliate and that is when I realized I cannot ignore it anymore, I tried to figure out the reason and eventually found out that a blessing is on its way and I am going to become a mother.

Doctor visits took place followed by some complications and I was put to bed rest for the remaining first trimester. My body experienced some vast changes during the first trimester and the plethora of emotions were overwhelming for me. I was unable to feel happy but I wanted to be happy and excited. The constant changes in my body and a sudden change in my life with a pause in my career and realizing that in a day everything has changed for me, I was unable to process it all and the biological changes and mood swings acted as a catalyst to make me feel even worse.

I used to cry and get irritated over small things avoiding meeting and talking to anyone. In the midst of blaming myself for not being able to feel happy and excited I started to read about the change in emotions during pregnancy and learnt that it is normal for a human body to feel this way with the changes one is going through. The one thing I felt during this time was that it is something which is not talked about openly even though many girls go through this feeling in the beginning and not everyone is able to take it as it comes.

I used to feel I cannot talk to anyone about it as they might judge me for having this kind of feeling in my mind. During that time, I became my own mental coach, explained myself that embracing the change is a part of life and started thinking more about focusing on the present.

The moment that made my mental struggle worthwhile

Then came the day when I went for the scan where I first heard the heartbeat of my baby and that was the moment which made me realize that this is huge and I was able to connect to what was happening inside me.

Gradually my mind and body started to coordinate and so my emotions which were all over the place beginning to appreciate what was happening inside me.

Soon after all this one day while scrolling through my Instagram I came across Momly account and decided to follow it and started to read and explore what is it about. I read and found that it is for mothers-to-be and mothers and is a platform where you can connect to like-minded people and learn from them.

Momly Social in Lucknow changed the way I saw motherhood

 was happening in Lucknow and I decided to be a part of it where I saw every mother new or experienced is discovering themselves, seeking help and enjoying motherhood at the same time and that gave me even more confidence to see so many women embracing motherhood beautifully.

My motherhood mantra – Ignore the naysayers and take one day at a time

Eventually I started taking one day at a time without worrying about the long-term future and started to enjoy every moment in my pregnancy journey. There are some people who at times comment on my body weight increasing or try to scare me that my life will change or will finish once the baby arrives and suggest me to enjoy till I am pregnant but I have learnt to ignore these comments and I believe that life teaches you everything when it comes your way.

Now as I am nearing my delivery date, I am excited to meet my baby and at the same time nervous for the huge responsibility and learning everything new hoping and praying that I am able to give my 100% to my baby. Nevertheless, I am grateful for the supportive family I have who keep encouraging me and comforting me that they all are there to help me and guide me.

I have understood the fact that every mother is learning and so will I, as it is said when a child is born so is a mother and as the baby grows so does a mother, so at this point of time I am thinking only positive and keeping myself calm.

Also, when I see fellow mothers posting on the 

 with their queries and suggestions I feel I have a whole community to help me out with their real-world experiences which makes me feel that I am not alone in this.

Embracing Self-love made me a Present Mother

Self-love: Foundation for Fulfilling Life

A Happy Mom needs a Happy You

My Poetic Ode to Self-love

The Journey from a carefree girl to preparing myself to embrace Motherhood

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