A Happy Mom needs a Happy You

You are the most important person in your life

Take a moment to express love to the most important person in your life—YOU. It may sound ironic, but often, the one we forget to truly love and nurture is ourselves. Reflect on the relationship you have with yourself. Separate your identity from your life and consider it as a dynamic between two entities: you, the receiver, and your thoughts, words, and actions, the giver. How do you treat yourself? How much time do you dedicate to your own well-being? What is the quality of this relationship, and what love language are you using to show yourself affection?

Go inward and meet yourself

Ask yourself: would a person in a relationship with you feel loved and valued based on how you treat yourself? Do you, as the receiver of your own love, truly feel it in the way you would want to? When you fail to give love to yourself, a part of you remains hungry for that validation, often seeking it externally. The more you crave it, the more desperate and vulnerable you can become, which not only affects your self-worth but places pressure on those around you to fill the gap. Your partner might feel the weight of this, and even when they try, their actions may sometimes fall short of your unspoken expectations.

Connect with yourself with self-love

The key to breaking this cycle is empowering yourself with self-love. This doesn’t mean you stop expecting love from those around you—rather, it means you are rooted in your own worth, making you more capable of accepting love freely without need or desperation.

You are the Cake, Everyone else is the icing

When you love yourself fully, you become the foundation—the cake—and those around you, like your partner, children, and friends, become the icing, fruits, and sprinkles that make life even more beautiful. You are in control of the flavours and colours of your life, how you experience love, and how you share it with others. By filling yourself up first, you create a life where love flows effortlessly, and everything you receive becomes a beautiful addition, rather than a necessity to feel complete. Happy Valentines, make it special for yourself.

Find yourself with Motherhood tribe: Choose Momly

In the journey of motherhood it is common to feel being lost. With so much happening biologically, psychologically, socially, financially and personally, feeling overwhelmed is natural. In a time where everyone has something to say, but no one says the right thing that you might need to hear, a ray of hope shines when you see someone sharing the same struggles as you did. The assurance that you’re not alone and not the only one who is lost. Having someone you can talk out your heart and vent without judgments or a guide where you can put out your tiniest and silliest concerns feel like a safe place through this journey of doubts and fears. With hundreds of moms feeling exactly the same and finding strength in holding each other up.

Momly is a community that helps you find yourself, love yourself, because we understand to be a happy mom you need to be a happy you!

(Written by Amrita Saluja - Momly Mental Health Expert)